It may be helpful to reframe the conversation away from our personal experiences and the ways we were taught to think about sin in our previous lives. Christ redeemed us for much greater purposes than we could ever reason or imagine, and focusing on our own efforts and failures in relation to sin is not the best way to achieve transformation. It is easy to focus on ourselves and our own personal struggles with sin, but we need to remember that we did not do anything to become righteous - Christ did it all for us. We cannot think of ourselves in terms of receiving rewards or punishment for our actions, because that is not how Christ sees us.Since we have been given new life through grace, focusing on what God has done for us is the best way to overcome our struggles with sin. We are tempted to take credit for our good deeds and to blame others for our bad deeds, but we need to remember that God is the source of all that is good.Although we may sin, we can take comfort in knowing that God's work is perfect. This is easy for believers because we have humility and recognize that we are imperfect. This lack of confidence is actually a good thing, because it allows us to rely on God's strength.The apostle Paul said that he had learned the secret of being able to go through the trials and temptations of this life, or the times when he was being blessed beyond measure. He learned the secret of finding his satisfactions in Christ.The reason we fail is not because we do not have the position of being above having to prove that we must be saved again, but because we would have a pleasure in our own ability to overcome the sin.The main problem is that we're trapped in a situation that's becoming more and more difficult, and the only way to escape is to be forgiven by God and to take joy in His love. This is the secret. If we talk to someone about our situation, it's the same as taking joy in it, but it also means leaving our pride and sorrow behind. That's just the way it is.