Instead of thinking of God as an all-powerful being who you have to obey, think of your wife as the person you surrendered your wild single life to. You did so not out of duty or because you felt you had to, but because you saw her for who she was and you desired her as your own. She fills every desire of your heart, so cherish her always.When you see another woman in a bikini and you feel sexually attracted to her, how does that affect your relationship with your wife? Even if the Bible doesn't explicitly say not to lust after other women, does it make your wife feel bad in some way? It's not physically hurting her, but it may have something to do with disrespecting the vows you made to each other at the altar. After she promised to give herself to you completely and unconditionally, does this make her feel like you are not doing the same?Should a man's marriage to his wife be a closer, more intimate relationship than that of his relationship to God? Or, visa versa, should a woman's marriage to her husband be a closer, more intimate relationship than that of her relationship to God (setting aside the sexual)? If you still have the urge to continue to have "lustful" thoughts without any regrets, then maybe you never really found the girl of your dreams or, for that matter, God of your salvation. I do not think this is a fair question. I have never met two people that have been able to display perfect commitment in dealing with their own flesh in their thought life that would be worthy of finding reasons to not fulfill that marriage vow.In a given situation, men and women can be fickle. I don't mean in the sense where the person actually sets out to give into temptation of thought, but it's impossible to demand this kind of expectation and not be in the position where you sin in being in God's place as the judge. This is what is so dangerous in trying to force someone to behave properly. I have heard that some people think that the fact that Job made a covenant with his eyes not to look on a woman to lust shows that he was more than human in fulfilling his covenant. They think that this means that the Bible teaches that we need to control our thoughts. But this is not what the Bible actually teaches about overcoming our sinful desires.The bible does not present perfect standards for human behavior that must be followed in order to have a healthy relationship with God. Instead, it provides practical advice for how to deal with the fact that people will inevitably break God's law. It recognizes that people's behavior and standards often change over time, and that two people married to each other will often have different standards. As such, the bible provides guidance on how to be understanding of others' weaknesses and to focus on our own weaknesses rather than emphasizing those of the other person. Ultimately, only God can change a person's will, and we cannot force someone to meet our own personal expectations.