I completely understand and empathize with the desire for approval. I used to live my life seeking validation from others, but I have realized that open and honest communication about our intentions and values can alleviate this concern. While I prioritize such conversations in my personal relationships, I am more cautious on online forums, as I am unfamiliar with the individuals there. However, I believe there are deeper needs that must be fulfilled, and for me, that involves engaging in intellectual discussions. I find everyday small talk to be unfulfilling, as I believe there is something fascinating about each person's unique perspective. However, constantly seeking approval in a postmodern manner can distract us from pursuing our true passions and wasting valuable time. In my case, I am particularly drawn to theology, which is why I am not here solely for casual conversation, although I do appreciate chatting with you. It is important to prioritize our learning and growth rather than seeking constant approval. Time is limited, and we should not squander it. Personally, I do not concern myself greatly with others' opinions of me, as I feel like a stranger in a foreign land and embrace that feeling, as mentioned in scripture. However, if you were to meet me in person, you would see that I am quite lighthearted and enjoy humor. It is important to remember that online interactions only provide a partial understanding of a person. I hope I did not come across as too harsh, as I genuinely enjoy reading your posts.