Just to offer you another side to this. I recognize the expression of personal relationships with the words we use pejoratively. It is like a coach getting plugged in the language, repeating the slogan until we believe. We can incorrectly assume the personal truth by the repeated slogan. There is enough controversial stuff in the teaching of marriage relationships that sound good. The description of the problem may be accurate but an incorrect prescription.

We must formulate our opinions about others from the doctrines of the Bible. I know this sounds conventional, but problems are not solved by short-term solutions or party politics. In a way, we counsel people by the application of our doctrines. It is invariably a self-fulfilling prophecy. My appropriate behavior is developed by repeating the familiar slogans of my childhood. I never think outside of the box of the childhood slogans. Or it goes like this" I can't change until I go back over the decisions that I executed and work on myself to avoid committing mistakes."Without the specific knowledge of God and the appropriate application of wisdom, we never learn to think for ourselves. We either trust in God's decrees or play the pragmatism game of going wherever the wind blows. We must let the bible remain the guide in the science of human relationships.