I believe the question itself is somewhat unfair. I have yet to encounter two individuals who can consistently exhibit perfect control over their thoughts and desires—those internal struggles that often betray us—and still faithfully uphold their marriage vows without faltering. In reality, men and women are naturally unpredictable and prone to inconsistency; this is not because they intentionally seek out temptation, but because the human condition makes such flawless perfection impossible to attain. Expecting someone to have unwavering purity in their thoughts is equivalent to placing oneself in the dangerous position of judging where only God has authority to judge. It becomes dangerously tempting to try to enforce a standard of behavior that essentially usurps divine authority. The Bible is not a manual for perfect perfection, nor does it demand us to meet an impossible standard in order to be worthy of love or relationship. Instead, it recognizes our inherent weakness—that we will stumble in our words and actions. The Christian life is practical: people do not stay the same throughout their journey, and marriage, in particular, involves two imperfect individuals, each with their own struggles and flaws. These differences are magnified, not diminished, by human weakness and susceptibility to sin—weaknesses that can sometimes become excuses or reasons to blame others. Ultimately, we cannot force someone to meet our personal standards; only God's divine power can truly transform the human will—bringing about genuine change from within, rather than imposing change from the outside. Some argue that Job’s covenant with his eyes—his vow not to look upon a woman with lust—sets an impossible standard beyond ordinary human capacity, portraying him as a superhuman figure. But this misinterprets the biblical message. It risks turning a spiritual discipline into a doctrine of thought control—an impossible burden that distorts the biblical teaching of mortifying the flesh.