I tend to be an emotional person by nature. However, I used to bottle up my emotions, which would create extreme tendencies in me. From my experience, I have observed that most people allow emotions to control their lives to varying degrees.I believe that it is not necessary to try and control your emotions. I spent a long time learning to be content with myself and not relying on others to make me happy, and I think this is a much healthier way to live. Although I am the kind of person who takes these things to heart and would probably blame myself, I have found that it is usually best to find an outlet to express my emotional states.I have found that the forum setting is conducive to happiness, but I have also learned that God has given us a way to find true happiness. In order to achieve this, we need to be able to communicate effectively with others and create a healthy environment. However, there will always be difficult people in the world that we cannot avoid.It is commonly thought that anger causes people to focus on those they hate, which can then create a self-fulfilling prophecy. This would mean that, over time, a person would become similar to the object of their anger. For example, if God experienced the same level of hatred from those He deals with, He would become a broken person. The reason there are so many broken people in this world is because they communicate from a place of carnality, rather than from a place of inner peace.This makes me feel more peaceful and allows me to see the other person from a more objective and loving perspective, as if from God's perspective. When we're in an angry relationship, we may feel like lashing out, but this is a learned response. The people we're angry with are usually weak people, controlled by their emotions rather than by the fruit of the Spirit. I have found that expressing my anger before God in prayer, praising Him for His goodness, and asking Him to keep me from the grasp of evil men, gives me some guidance from Him about how to deal with difficult people.The practice of meditating on the protection Psalms, such as Psalm 25, has given me a way to control situations in which I might otherwise be confronted by an angry person. By meditating on these Psalms, I can make the experience so negative for the other person that they will regret it for a couple of days. This way, the next time they want to have a tantrum in my presence, they will know there will be consequences. We used to call this developing a bite.One of the challenges of difficult people is that they often believe they are entitled to act in whatever way they please, given their past successes. This can be frustrating because it feels like they are not taking into account the challenges or obstacles that other people face. One way to deal with this is to develop a sense of meekness, which is being able to control strong emotions and not reacting to them. This can be difficult because it requires recognizing that people are products of Satan's realm of thinking, which is full of challenges and obstacles.This person who always either goes to extremes of behaviour, either lashing out or self-debasing, is a secularist. They think they can control everything by having a lot of rules, because they have a big lust for wanting to feel that God accepts them. But lust is something that is natural to man, so they just end up getting a few principles and making a list of them, and then they try to do them all themselves and want everyone else to follow suit. So they end up feeling entitled to talk to others in a way that is always about what someone needs to do or what someone else needs to do.Many people who are not strong enough to resist temptation spend their lives focused on indulging their lusts. However, when we develop a religious focus, we begin to see our actions in terms of fulfilling our spiritual desires, rather than our physical desires. This lust is the same process as lusting to do evil. So you need to learn how to defend yourself in the way you communicate, getting into circumstances where you avoid having to confront the anger and making it a very bad experience but being in complete control. You need to defend yourself against temptation by developing a stronger focus on your spiritual desires.