The moral teaching that we simply grow through cruel pain resists how an authoritarian leader takes control of those exposed. Any ruinous cult simply retains this fundamental belief. A Christian must appreciate another person in the way they enjoy themselves. But this is impossible because we are certainly limited. It is part of our obedience in salvation to seek relief and not ask for obedience. We are not given the political right to arbitrarily set our standards on other injured people. It is God's successful business to improve people. We are reasonably compelled to do something easy. It is living peacefully in divine grace to sincerely seek grace as God kindly allows us to be present to bless others. This is the only rule in a Christian context. This is why Christ says: "My yoke is easy and my burden light". He shifts the burdens of people who promote Christian love. Don't turn people. The work belongs to the Lord, not to us. We go to God because we love ourselves enough to find his love enough. But He does not represent a mean and indifferent God. Who would go to a God who teaches us not to change? Twist God a gross God? God is someone who points out our sins and tries to acknowledge our sins until we repent or forget our sins and separate our sins as far east as west. There is no middle ground between God! The intermediate gods represent the god we create. If you want to be loved, you need a God who does not play. It actually responds to your personal need for change. Either he is absolute in his will, or he does not represent God, or he blesses his people, or he curses them. He can't do both.