There are two kinds of theological tendencies in this whole marriage love. If you believe that in order for your will to be at liberty that you must be able to have good on one side and evil on the other there is not tendency toward either side so that you can determine yourself the choice that you want to make. This is not a free will. This is no will at all. In this paradigm there really is no will being exercised. Liberty desiring one thing over another so that the object you desire is what you get. The view of the mind of the object and the degree of its pleasure makes the possibility for the will to act on the object. The will does not determine the choice of the object but the mind does. The will is the instrument of the mind. This difference has a great impact on how one views his practical choices including marriage. If you believe that liberty is the will subsisting between good and evil without any inclination to either one and that is freedom then you are going to place the power of choice on the object because the will has no power to choose in itself. Your believing in the armininst view of liberty will work out in you marriage. You will sorta let go and let God. And that will be the paradigm that you think is liberty. Liberty in the calvinistic fashion is choosing according to what pleases you most. So there is no room for the object of be an excuse for your choosing. The focus will be on the inside, on the motives, on the heart. It will not be on the power of the object as a focus. So you will be free to love because you will not be concentrating on the physical and swallowing a camel while slapping at a nat. There is more liberty in heaven where there is no evil then there is on earth where there is evil.